Do you walk around in raggedy non-matching pajamas full of holes? Have you gained 80 lbs. in 4 years? Do you wear headwraps only to avoid running a comb through your hair? Men are visual. They want to see a pretty woman who takes care of herself. It is hard for a man to take pride in you if you look unkempt! Don’t fool yourself; you are no one’s fantasy looking like that no matter how pretty your face might be.