Do you really think that you can take a mans DNA…his life force inside of you and not be affected ? Condom ? Really ? His tongue was inside of you ? Your mouth, between your legs. Why don’t you value your inner being MORE ?……The sad part ? He was with another woman and HER DNA is still in his mouth, and hes kissing you, because you don’t care enough about yourself to WAIT…to find out. To question. To REQUIRE monogamy.
How many men’s/women’s souls do you have inside of you? Every person you sleep with leaves a part of themselves with you. Sexually transmitted demons are not something to play with and are harder to get rid of than diseases!!!! Soul ties are more powerful than you think. The right mate for you will PRAY on your soul not PREY on it. Women, God made u to be protected by your husband’s and sex makes you feel married, even though you aren’t. Sex is a spiritual bond because of the connection made during love making. Do you ever wonder what your soul looks like to GOD? Sex does more to the body than the eyes can see. Be careful who and what you allow your soul to tie to!!!
Vagina IS and always will be more valuable than penis but YOU determine its price – Everybody has a House, some are Mansions and some are shacks. Your vagina is as VALUABLE as you make it!! Your value is NOT negotiable. Nobody walks into Tiffanys and attempts to haggle over the cost of a flawless 7 carat diamond or argue that is shouldn’t take $50,000.00 to own it. It cost what it cost ! I decide what it takes to get my goodies. Not a MAN. A man doesn’t decide that. It is NOT a point of negotiation. You get it when I feel that my emotional needs are being met. My need for emotional security and protection and provision. Women value love, security and commitment. Men value sex, money and their freedom. We have been getting short changed for A LONG TIME.
Characteristics of a Drive Thru…Cheap, Easy and Convenient. Is your Vagina a drive thru? If so, how late are you open…the club is about to close and you’re about to get some orders.-Miss More Roses
Are you easily controlled by sex or are you easily in control of sex?
Every day I see a growing amount of men and women becoming controlled by sex or “sexmatized”–the state of letting sex or the idea of having it control your life through your decisions, emotions & standards. Most people have been sexmatized at least once in their life. Below are some common, but not all, sexmatized symptoms:
1. If you’ve stayed in an expired or loveless relationship/situationship just because “the sex was good” or you’re sexually attached to that man.
Common Thoughts: “I can’t leave him, the sex is way too good. I’m not going to let that go for another woman to enjoy!” or “I lost my virginity to him, I’m attached and can’t leave him.”
2. A lot of women think they can change who a man is or what his intentions are by having sex with him. They subconsciously try to prove their worth and value to him through sex. If you’ve ever used sex as a way to prove or show that you’re worthy of monogamy, a date, phone call, respect, love, relationship, or just anything period–you’ve been sexmatized.
Common Thoughts: “I’m going to put it on him so good, he’s not going to want anyone else but me.” “Dang, why isn’t he pursuing me? I bet if I do this *insert sexual act/trick*, he’s going to be all in my face!” or even “I want him to be my boyfriend, I should probably have sex we him then.”
3. If you ever compromised your standards or worth for sex.
Common Thoughts: “I usually don’t sleep with men that I’m not in a relationship with, but I’ll make him an exception for him; plus we said we made an agreement that we could only sleep with each other.” “I usually don’t do this, but *inserts exception you made for a guy*. The exception could be sex on first date, sex without a relationship, sex before marriage, one night stand, etc.
4. If you ever had sex with a “random” purely because you needed “some”. That random could be a stranger, an ex, or a guy you’re really not interested in–you just want to use his male tool as an object to fulfill your physical needs.
Common Thoughts: “Wow! It’s been 4 months, I can’t function like this. I need to get some immediately.” So you call up the “random” and arrange the booty call. And if that “random” is an ex or old sex buddy, you try to justify for actions by thinking, “Well technically I’m not increasing my number, so what I’m doing isn’t THAT bad.” FYI: You may not be increasing your “number”, but you’re increasing and strengthening the bond of an unhealthy soul tie.
A Queen has complete control over her mind, body, and emotions. She doesn’t let lust and sexual urges dictate her actions or standards. She can never be sexmatized because she has self-control. She knows her worth lies in between her head, not her legs. She will never compromise her standards to please a peasant who really has no intentions of becoming her King.
I am in no position to judge or throw stones. No one is perfect, and most of us have been sexmatized at least once, including myself. But once you understand the POWER of sex, you wouldn’t just have it with anyone. I don’t care how “unemotional” and “unbothered” you think you are. Soul ties are real, just like STDs and pregnancies. You create a chemical and spiritual bond with every person you have sex with, and you risk in taking their DNA & diseases.
The Naked Truth: Stop treating your Vagina like a raggedy stray alley cat always dragging it around from club to club, party to party, date to date looking for somebody to pet it, feed it and take it in for the night. Your kitty is a PURE BRED and it deserves MORE ! – Miss More Roses
In this game that we call dating, it is always the Season of Trick or Treat. You have been tricked over and over by the man with the mask. He comes wearing a disguise that you don’t take the time to see behind. You give him “candy” every time. Sad, lonely, broken, tricked again.
Lust comes to you dressed in a “love” costume. You open the door over and over and over. Trick or Treat. You should know by now that this is the season of jokers with mask who dress up and pretend, for candy. It is ALL about the candy. Funny how you put the CANDY on display to draw them, they snatch it and RUN. You cry. Trick Or Treat.
A treat from a trickster. An apple with a razor blade cut to the core of your being. Why did you bite ? Trick or Treat.
It is the season of things that go bump in the night. Bump and grind, you should be afraid of the ghouls that come for candy, but…it is sweet to you. Trick or Treat. Sweet turns to sour and sour to Bitterness. Bitterness defiles to the ROOT of who you are. Who are you ? Tricked again, alone again. Your relationships are a House of Horrors.
You must begin to LOOK behind the mask. Spirits HIDE, but God reveals. We are NOT ignorant to the tricks when we see with the eyes of the Spirit.
The FLESH sees the treat. The Spirit sees the TRICK.
Walk, see and stay in the Spirit.
The Enemy has the TRICKS….God has PROMISED “THE TREAT”
Although I am a strong advocate for chastity/purity/celibacy I am not naïve, let’s face it $#!+ happens:
I disagree with sex on the first date but I can assure you, you can wait 90 days or even a year to have sex and a man can still leave you. So whether a woman had sex on the first date or waited until commitment if they both never marry that man then I’m sorry to all the self righteous women out there; YOU ARE IN THE SAME BOAT.
I am currently practicing celibacy. It has been the toughest part of my walk, I don’t do this to be better than others because I’m not. I have followed many Christian blogs directed toward Women and the issues they face and I agree with the message they are saying. We as women MUST practice chastity, I am the softest girly girl I know and I’m aware that once I give my body away my heart follows.
I will be the first to admit that I have deeply regretted every sexual encounter I have had with a man or sometimes “grown boy” I have laid down with because non of them where worth the love I had to give and the bond only that sex creates, me not waiting till marriage did not come from a place of self love and security and non of the men were strong enough to catch me when I fell for them. I don’t regret not being a virgin and I do not wish to be, my experiences have made me who I am today and I like who I am but the unnecessary pain and heartbreak could have been avoided.
Sex awakens love on a woman’s heart, this is why older women like our mothers can tell when we have slept with a man. Sex is more meaningful to a woman because sex happens inside her. A man must come inside her, inside her body, inside her womb the most sacred and holy place because this is where life is created. As TD Jakes put it; for a woman who is a virgin the hymen represents a covenant with God like how men in the bible would sacrifice a spotless pure lamb to God to make a covenant with Him.
The act of losing your virginity is a holy and sacred thing, so to the women who have not lost theirs, from one sister to another I urge you to wait. You will never regret waiting to have sex with a man who actually cares for you and loves you enough that he wants to spend his entire life with you. This is not because sex is bad but because it is so beautiful it shouldn’t be shared with any man who can walk out of your life when its over.
To those of you like me who have made that mistake of sharing your body before marriage I don’t ever want you to feel dirty, or that you are not worthy to be loved, of sometimes that you are a slut.
Romans 8:1 Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus,
Satan wants you to feel like that because when you do you WILL engage in skanky behavior. I have had a man tell me “Since you have had sex before there is nothing to ‘wait’ for” Don’t believe a guy who says this, he is only try to make you feel worthless so he can use your body like a trash can. Thank God I had enough sense to walk away before anything happened! If there was nothing to wait for then why was he trying to experience sex with me? Remember if guys still wanna hit it – IT’S STILL VALUABLE! Each time you have sex it’s like you are giving away a million dollars & a woman can decide to close the bank at ANYTIME… It is never too late to start your journey to purity.
2 Corinthians 5:17Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come:a The old has gone, the new is here! 18All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: 19that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. 20We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God. 21God made him who had no sin to be sinb for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.
And I will let you in on a secret, so make sure you are paying attention. You know that saying “if you don’t use it you will lose it?” WELL ITS TRUE. After a year of no sex your vagina does snap back to how it was before that, you even forget what sex feels like, obviously your hymen doesn’t come back but I believe that God can restore that covenant if you ask Him to. I am not saying this because I want women to chase “second virginity” because there is NO SUCH THING, I am saying this because someone needs to hear this and motivate themselves to remember WHY they are choosing purity.
When a woman has sex she is not only sharing her body but her spirit. A man doesn’t feel it as deeply and that is why he can get up and go immediately but a woman wants to cuddle and talk; and secretly we want more romantic things after we sleep with a man. We become enamored and that is because of oxytocin in our bodies and SOUL TIES because we are married to the man in the spiritual realm. I will go in detail much later on the blog.
To conclude my testimony i will say this:
I am thoroughly sure that my body was never meant to be given away for a one night stand or to a “boyfriend” because my heart is too frigle to be handled carelessly. I’m the type of woman who gives her all in love and God has shown me I’m not girlfriend material I am wife material. I just want to encourage women out there to know their worth and to wait with me for the man God has as our spouse.
How often does the world talk about sex of all kinds? Daily. Every second of every hour of every day. Do Christians need to talk about sexual purity? Yes! Even MUCH more than we do. We need to get loud about the fact that we are remaining pure, and that doesn’t make us freaks. Because the world sure is loud about the very opposite.
True and right purity lasts long after your wedding night.
If you are a virgin, good for you. Don’t let anyone talk you out of it. Wait until marriage and you WILL be blessed for it. Period. Encourage others to wait with you. If you are not a virgin, go and sin no more. That’s all. From this day forward, you can choose not to sin any longer. You can wait for marriage. Encourage others to wait with you. We can ALL choose to keep sex inside of marriage. We can ALL do it because God said so. It your decision and it’s mine.
Are men as gentle with our feelings OUT OF BED as we are with THEIR EGOS IN BED ????????? Just ASKIN?
Why do you ladies LIE to these men and NOT get your NEEDS met ? Isnt’ that why your in that “position”…in the first place…to “come” to an explosive end to a lovely encounter ? Why do you forego your needs FOR his EGO… forego…get it ??
In my culture a woman is taught by her aunts (her fathers sisters) at puberty and throughout her life about men, sex and marriage. My amazing aunties told me very important lessons:
Try your best to practice chastity before marriage because your husband will have deep respect for you knowing that you are not an easy woman who can be had by just any man; however, when you are married be a “whore/slut” for your husband and only your husband. Enjoy sex in marriage and have lots of it. Helen Andelin puts it this way in Fascinating Womanhood in regards to chastity:
Chastity, your most precious gift to your husband
“Now I’m sure you all understand how important your own chastity is to your husband. It can be the height of
emotional agony for him to imagine another man being intimate with you. It is the ultimate blow and insult to his
sensitive male pride. We must constantly teach our daughters this fact also. That the most precious gift they can give to their future husbands is their chastity. Class, never become involved in an affair. Never even think about it. Not for an instant. It might seem exciting to imagine, but adultery is a serious wrong in the eyes of
God. It shatters entire families. We will never, never find happiness that way, only misery. If any of us have ever been
guilty of this, we should humbly ask God for forgiveness, and never do it again.”
Never ever fake an orgasm because you are only robbing yourself from experiencing the most ultimate pleasure one can physically experience. If you don’t “come” just tell him plainly and politely that you didn’t get an orgasm and ask him to have a go at it again. Tell him what you would like him to do. Then ask him to tell you what he wants.
A book I highly recommend for men to read is this:
I recently saw the term “Thirsty” in a conversation on Facebook and it referred to women who are DESPERATE for a man as being “thirsty”. I thought this was an interesting term because water is our LIFE SOURCE. 60 percent of our body is WATER and 70 percent of our brain is WATER. My question is , have MEN and the consuming desire for a man taken over our bodies and our brains… to the point that we are THIRSTY ? Are we thirsty for men as if they are our LIFE SOURCE ?? Has the man “drought” caused us to fight each other and steal and cheat ? Do we drink out of another womans cup, bucket and toilet to quench our “thirst”? Thirsty dogs will drink out of a toilet. Are we any more discriminate when we will lay down with a man on a first date, third date, married, uncommitted, side chick, booty call…
Women, not wanting or getting MORE, you are Thirsty. Parched. Vagina wet, spirit dry, heart shriveled from the lack of the tender moist touch of TRUE LOVE. Thirsty. You are drinking Bleach. Its wet, but its not water. Its poison and you DIE more each time, a slow death. Its not water. A mirage, you THINK you see water and suddenly your mouth is full of sand, desert sand. Deserted AGAIN, Still thirsty. Yet, HERE is the part, the truth that YOU don’t accept, avoid…and try to work “around”. My dear, you need LIVING water. You need water that flows from the SOURCE of LIFE. Not sewer water, distilled water or salt water… LIVING WATER. You see the woman at the well had 5 HUSBANDS and a penis on the side and yet she was thirsty, until she got to the well and Met “THE MAN” Drink and thirst no more- Miss More Roses
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