Beyoncé is in an Abusive Relationship by Johari Bandele

This is the best Beyoncé analysis of all time by Johari Bandele it does have bad language but still the most powerful thing I’ve ever read about Beyoncé:

“Beyonce is in an abusive relationship and it really is sad that all of her wealth, talent, hard work, and success blinds people to that. We don’t know if he physically abuses her, but you can’t listen to her music and not see that he is definitely mentally, emotionally, and spiritually abusing her and has been for a VERY long time.

All this woman has ever talked about is how insecure her relationship with her husband makes her feel as a person and a woman. Most of her music is about how she constantly worries if the only reason he is with her is because she is Beyonce the brand and not Bey the person. How threatened she feels all the time because her husband doesn’t give her his undivided attention. How she feels worthless because there is nothing sacred between her and her husband and he shares what should be reserved for her as his wife, with anyone woman he pleases. She constantly speaks on how she feels there would be no point in existing if she didn’t have him – which is nice to for her children and family to know – and anything that can be seen as a celebration of their love is instead a reminder to other women that she may share her husband with them, but she is the one he comes home to. Which is…so much to unpack, yo. She spends a lot of time begging for her husband to see her worth and honor her love – and it is just really, really sad how one of the most powerful women in the world is consistently and publicly reduced to a wounded teenager because she chooses to get her validation from her relationship with her husband instead of from within herself. 😖

I don’t understand where and how people get empowerment or confidence in her actual material, because listening to her music is the perfect snapshot for how Black Women can have it ALL but still be living worthlessly, all because a dusty nigga came along and wore her down into the same dust he is made of himself…

It is present on EVERY album, even if it is only once.

Dangerously In Love was the start and “Me, Myself, and I” was the flagship for all this mess. Clearly, it was written for her and perhaps wasn’t exactly about them, but it starts and sets the tone.

B’Day features “Ring the Alarm” which is the first true sign that Jay-Z is a disrepectful partner who doesn’t value her and sends her into a rage because of his infidelity; then you have the MOST MAJOR song, “Resentment” which is a diary entry of what she be putting up with and dealing with.

I AM..Sasha Fierce is the first album that becomes CENTERED on this – “If I Were A Boy”, “Broken-Hearted Girl”, and of course the iconic “Single Ladies”, which is doesn’t have to be explained.

4 is just…sad. It’s a battered woman’s love letter to her shitty husband, begging him to love her and be with her and be faithful to her, which he clearly has no interest in because otherwise, she wouldn’t be begging like this. “Love On Top” is the most Pick-Me I ever heard of: finally, after all this we been through, you decide to put me first and kind of honor and love me. “Rather Die Young” and “I Care” supports this Pick Me and it’s upsetting.

BEYONCE is the first full-length album where you realize – oh shit, this woman is unhappy as fuck, mistreated, and going through it. “Jealous”, “Mine”, and “Ring Off” are booming-ass examples that are uncomfortable to listen to, especially “Mine” and “Jealous”.

And, finally, we have Lemonade – there is really, really no explaination that is necessary for this album. lol!

Let me do it this way and list the tracks that are NOT talking about or centering on her relationship with Jay-Z.

Dangerously in Love – “Daddy” and “Hip-Hop Star” are the only songs that don’t have anything to do with her and her love for a man who we KNOW at this point is Jay-Z, because she’s been with him since going solo. The rest of the album is her talking about her very new relationship with Jay-Z.

B’Day – “Get Me Bodied” is the only song that doesn’t have do to with her and her deepening relationship with Jay-Z

I AM…Sasha Fierce – “Radio” and “Diva” are the only songs that don’t have anything to do with her enagagement to Jay-Z. I give latitude with “Video Phone”, because it isn’t specific to a man and is very general.

4 – “Party, “I Was Here”, and “Run the World (Girls)” are the only songs that don’t have anything to do with her marriage to Jay-Z.

BEYONCE – “Heaven”, “Blue”, and “Flawless” are the only songs that don’t have to do about her broken marriage to Jay-Z.

Lemonade – “Formation”, “Freedom”, and “Daddy Lessons” are the only songs that aren’t about recovering from her broken marriage to Jay-Z.

Now, out of dozens and dozens of songs across six albums, only three on average are NOT about her awful ass relationship with Jay-Z I’d say that her marriage and relationship to Jay-Z is definitely the premise of her albums. That’s my ultimate point. Even the uptempo songs are rooted insecurity and proving herself worthy to a man who doesn’t see her as worthy, despite EVERYTHING that she has which makes her a goddess as individual and more powerful than the man she’s whining over.

This woman has made a career out of being unfilled and unhappy in her relationship with the SECOND man she’s ever been with and that’s what I’m getting at. She centers herself on Jay-Z and doesn’t get anything out of it but misery, from where I’m sitting.

People be getting her singles and the marketing image around them confused for her actual album content and I’m talking about listening to her discography as a whole, not hearing her on the radio. Beyonce is abused and EVERY album shows this and again – it’s really upsetting to listen to this and know that we can have it ALL and still not having nothing, because of a nigga.

Also: even the uptempo love songs that are actually love or empowering songs are instead battered women’s anthems that are filled with underlying insecurity and low self-esteem. Beyonce literally cannot talk about how much she loves her husband without a threat to other women and fake confidence that is really insecurity, when you get down to it.

Nobody who is secure and in a healthy relationship has to subtly threaten people by expressing how better she is, how enduring she is, how long she been with him and how she is going to stay with him regardless of who he sharing himself with.

I keep pointing the finger at her nigga because she centers herself on him so severely, there is nothing that you can pull out of her music that doesn’t come back to her relationship with Jay-Z. I’m almost positive that she is a fully developed person outside of her marriage with Jay-Z. I’m not saying she exists in a vacuum unless you’re talking about him. There’s plenty to talk about that doesn’t have to do with Jay-Z because she is literally a force of nature in and of herself.

But, when it comes to her music? Everything, even if it isn’t the main idea, centers itself on her love for her husband and how utterly lost she is within the context of their relationship because everything is centered on him. It gets made about him because she makes it about him.

Again – I’m almost positive that she is not an empty drone centered on the penis she married. But, from the content of her music, this man treats her WORTHLESSLY and that’s my entire point. That’s how sad this is – she is Beyonce, but she got old school, highly refined struggle love that isn’t any different from someone who isn’t Beyonce…”

I love this version better than JLO

Only Weak Beta Males Love a ‘Bossy Bitch’

There was a time in society where just about all men were considered to be masculine, and just about all women were considered to be feminine.  This was a good thing.  Masculinity tends to attract femininity, and vice versa.  There is a reason why men and women possess different hormones and different genitalia.

Then came the Second Wave of Feminism in the 1960s, and everything changed.

Are men still men?  Are women still women?

In today’s society, you now have many women who are more masculine than many of the men, and many men who are more effeminate than many of the women.  Is this a good thing for society?  In a word, no.

There are more divorces than ever.  There are more instances of domestic violence than ever.  There are more single mothers raising children by themselves than ever.  This is not by accident.  This is not a mere coincidence.

How appealing are women who are ‘bitches?’

I was on Amazon.com recently, and I could not help but to notice that the top selling book in the dating advice category was Author Sherry Argov’s Why Men Love Bitches and not too far behind in sales was her companion book, Why Men Marry Bitches.  The popularity of these two books is a testimony to the sad state of affairs between men and women in today’s dating scene.

If you have read my previous articles, you already know that I tend to delineate men into at least two different categories:  ‘Alpha’ males (i.e., men who are very masculine, have a strong sense of backbone, very dominant and uncompromising, and generally perceived by most women to be seductive and good in bed) and ‘Beta’ males (i.e., men who are very accommodating with women; very flattering and entertaining toward women; very lenient and compromising with women; and very financially generous and emotionally empathetic with women).

What Alpha male type do you know who genuinely wants to be in a long-term romantic relationship with a woman who is a ‘bitch?’  What Alpha male type do you know who genuinely wants to be married to a woman who is considered by many to be a hard-to-get-along-with ‘bitch?’  Please introduce him to me.

The only motivation any Alpha male type has for socially interacting with a woman who is a ‘bitch’ is to execute the confident expectation of ‘turning her out’ (i.e., having sex with her in such a dominating and satisfying manner that it provokes her to ‘unleash’ her more feminine side, her more erotically uninhibited side, and her more submissive side).  Beyond that, there is nothing appealing about an ‘Alpha female’ to an Alpha male.

Many women aspire to become a ‘Bossy Bitch’

A few months ago, I read a status comment posted by a young Black woman on Facebook that read, “I love Beyoncé because she is such a Bossy Bitch.  No one can touch her!!” Maybe Jay-Z loves having a ‘bossy bitch’ as a wife.  I sure would not.  I mean, what part of the game is that?

When a woman is very controlling and domineering, and she gives birth to a son, I can almost guarantee you that her son is going to go off in one of two directions as he gets older:  Either he is going to a) grow up to very effeminate in his behavior toward both other men and women, or b) rebel against the influence of his mother, and more-than-likely become some sort of very macho acting street ‘thug’ in an attempt to compensate for not having a strong male presence in his life.

Personally, I have never witnessed a marriage or long-term relationship lasting indefinitely when both the man and the woman in the relationship were both dominant. Such a relationship or marriage simply does not work.  Even among Gay couples and Lesbian couples, usually one partner is the dominant ‘Alpha’ while the other partner is the more passive and submissive ‘Beta.’

Bulls, Cuckolds, and Hotwives

Most dominant women will rarely if ever confess this publicly, but the reality is, no woman is sincerely sexually turned on by a man who is erotically submissive.  It is simply not in their genetic code to be.  Now, make no mistake:  Women LOVE men who are FINANCIALLY accommodating and submissive.  No doubt.  But again, I have never met a woman in my life who admitted to being sexually aroused by a man who had a very obedient and submissive nature about him.

This is related to my article about the concept of ‘sexual duplicity.’  This is why many women behave in one manner toward some men, and a totally different manner toward other men.  For example, in what is known as a ‘Bull-Hotwife-Cuckold’ relationship (which is a blend of the BDSM lifestyle and the Polyamory lifestyle), a woman who is the designated ‘Hotwife’ (a title she carries even if she is not legally married) will behave in an ultra-submissive and sexually obedient manner with her Bull(s), but conversely, she will be totally dominant toward her more submissive Cuckold, who is essentially her indefinite Sugar Daddy and/or financial provider.

It is one thing for a man to CHOOSE to become a woman’s cuckold, but it is more disheartening for a man to become a woman’s unknowing cuckold by circumstance.  There are many men right now who have no idea that they are their wife or girlfriend’s cuckold while some other more erotically dominant man is treating that same woman as if she is his personal slut.

Many Black women are desperately in need of femininity training

I believe the Black community has arguably the highest percentage of women who seem to have a blatant aversion to the idea of being ultra-feminine around men and erotically submissive to many men.   And with the growing number of effeminate, passive, no-backbone having Black men finding their way into mainstream society, the plight of dating and relationships among Black dating singles is going to progressively get worse.

As long as there are weak Beta male types of all ethnicities who are able to earn six-figure, seven-figure, and eight-figure salaries, there will always be dominant women waiting in the wings to become their Hotwife.

What are the solutions?

If you have a son, raise him to be a strong man with balls and backbone.  Teach him not to tolerate any disrespectful, spoiled, and/or undesirable behavior in general exhibited by women.

If you are a single heterosexual man, stop behaving like a thirsty, weak Beta male toward women.  Stop giving away your non-sexual attention and companionship for free.  Make women earn your attention and companionship.  Stop being a ‘Captain Save-a-Ho’ and/or a fawning ‘White Knight’ toward women.  Grow some balls and strengthen your backbone.

If you happen to be a woman reading this, and you are a self-proclaimed ‘bossy bitch,’ let me ask you:  Are you happy being single?  Are you happy being married to a weak Beta male type?  Do you want to raise a son without a father, or with a father who has no apparent backbone?  The womanizing Alphas and Bulls will leave you alone once you reach 40, 45, or 50.  Are you ready for that?

Today’s dating scene among singles is a mess.  If things do not change and improve quickly, it will only get worse.  Men need to reclaim their God-given roles as the leaders in a marriage and any romantic relationship.  Women need to regain their femininity and sex appeal.

Next thing you know, women will be wearing business suits and men will be wearing skirts.

Oh.  My bad.  We’re already there.

ONLY”Princess” Tiana married an irresponsible, broke prince who had been disinherited. She has a job too, he does not. So sad.😭

MY HUSBAND, I HAVE BEEN UNFAITHFUL

She joined her husband in the bedroom. Their children were asleep.He was busy reading the newspaper.She looked at him.”My love, there’s something I need to confess” she began to speak.”What is it?” he asked without looking at her, his face still glued to the newspaper.”I have been unfaithful” she said.

He looked at her with fiery eyes.He slapped her.
For the first time in their marriage, he slapped her.
“How could you woman?! Seventeen years of marriage, four children and this is what you do to me? You cheat on me? Foolish? How can you stoop so low?” he shouted.
He got up from the bed. He started pacing as he continued shouting, “You are the one who always tells me to keep off women.

Out of respect, I keep females at a distance and you on the other hand do this?”He was just about to pounce on his wife and beat her. The sting of unfaithfulness enraged him.A knock was heard on the door.

Their first born, Maria, a fourteen year old girl walked in their bedroom.”Mom, dad; is everything OK?” Maria asked.
“Get out! Get out!” he shouted as his daughter.”It’s OK Maria, Dad and I will sort this out. Go to sleep” She told their first born daughter, Maria.Maria walked out of their bedroom.

“Who is it? Who have you been unfaithful with? Give me his phone number. He will know today who I am” he shouted trying to grab his wife’s phone.She humbly took her phone.”Show me his number. Show me his face. Filthy animal who is snatching my wife” he shouted some more.

“This is the man I have been unfaithful with” she said giving her husband her phone.Her husband looked at the screen of her phone and saw his own face and phone number.”Me?!” he asked puzzled looking at her.”Yes, I have been unfaithful with you.

I have been unfaithful to God because I have been so busy loving you. In my effort to try being a good wife, I have forgotten God” she said.He sat down on the bed, confused.

“When you met me, I was so devoted to God. In fact, you used to tell me that the most important reason you chose me as your wife was because of my devotion to God.

I loved the Godly man you used to be. We would pray and long to have a Godly family together. I remember the days I would fast and pray and tell God that if He blesses me with a good job, I will dedicate my career to Him.

God did bless me, God blessed you, God blessed us. We did so well professionally, we got good money, we could afford a good wedding. We got married” she explained.He looked at her intently.

She continued, “The first few months of our marriage, we would pray as a family, go to Church, have fellowships, worship and Bible Study; but slowly, we stopped living by that Scripture that says as for me and my household we will serve the Lord. We started having children who we failed to raise in the Godly way. With success, we changed our friends.

We found the born again friends boring. We started worshiping money, success and materials. Look at us now, we live in a big house but God is absent. You started taking me to unGodly places to have fun, we started drinking too much, our children ashamed by our drinking”He looked away from her.

“In order to please you, I changed too; thinking that being a good wife means tagging along with everything you do. I didn’t confront you when you started going astray, I didn’t pull you back to God, I got lost with you.

So lost, that I started becoming proud, shallow, self-centered; all along thinking I am being a good wife. But this is not me. I have changed so much from the woman you found me. We both have changed much”He looked at her.

“All these. The good house, the good meals we eat, the money we have, the comfortable life; they have made us forget the God who gave them to us. I am nothing without God and I feel ashamed that I have abandoned the God responsible for all I am and have. We have started having troubles in our marriage, because the Lord is no longer building our love, we are doing it on our own and we will fail if we keep on like this”She reached out and touched his hand.

“I want to go back to the woman I used to be. A woman after God’s own heart. I miss the peace that God gives, I miss worship, I miss reading the Word, I miss going to Church and fellowship, I miss meditating, I miss praying with you. What does it profit me to gain a good marriage yet lose my soul, my God? I am going back to God.

Only as a wife submitted to God, will I be the best wife to you and the best mother to our children. He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God, but I cannot bring favour to you if I continue being disconnected from God. I want my spiritual life back. I want God back in our home, our marriage, our family”.

He started breaking down in tears. His spirit convicted.
He held her tightly in his arms.”I am sorry. I am sorry for going astray and taking you with me. You chose to marry me because you thought you are marrying a Godly man. I miss being that Godly man.

Marriage shouldn’t be a stumbling block in our walk with God. The thought of you cheating on me ripped my heart apart, I cannot even begin to imagine how God feels when we are unfaithful to Him. God having blessed us this much and we turn our backs on Him.

At the thought of you cheating on me I was filled with rage, yet God patiently looks at us in our unfaithfulness desiring us to go back to Him. I want to go back too. I want more in my life than these earthly things, I want God. I want the God of my youth. I am so sorry for slapping you”.

That night, they knelt down and repented, rededicated their lives and marriage to God. The Prodigal Couple came back to God.
The next morning, they prayed together with their children.
God returned back to that home, because that couple returned back to God. Please share

What a wonderful picture that honors his masculine and protective nature!

Lean Out, Ladies. Your Children (and You!) Will Be Glad You Did.

MARCH 29, 2014

I should start a movement called Lean Out—or maybe Lean Back. It’d be for all the parents who accept that sacrifice is part of having a family. It’d be about honoring the vitally important, taxing work moms at home—and dads, for that matter—do every day for the good of their families and for the betterment of society.

At the TED talk that launched Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In movement, Sandberg discussed what amounted to her assumptions about why there aren’t more women at the top. At only one point during this speech, and for a total of one minute, did Sandberg get personal: when she admitted it’s difficult to leave a child who’s pulling on your leg, begging you to stay with him, as you walk out the door each morning. For Sandberg, that’s where the conversation ends.

For most women, that’s where it begins.

The Lean In movement may resonate for the minority of women whose identities are inextricably linked to their jobs and who have no problem leaving their babies, if they have them, with substitute caregivers on a full-time basis. But it’s a terrible message for the average woman who wants to find balance in her life. And it’s a terrible message for mothers, employed or otherwise, who want to spend more time—not less—with their children.

That’s why most of Sandberg’s supporters are either older women whose children have flown the coop or twenty-something women who have yet to look in the eyes of their toddler who’s begging them to stay—only to find themselves peeling their child’s fingers off their arms the way Sandberg described at her TED talk.

That is not a position most women wish to be in.

But they wouldn’t mind, Sandberg insists, if employers would simply get with the program and offer women better parental leave and childcare options! Hogwash.

For one thing, providing such policies does not guarantee women will take advantage of them. Arlie Hothschild proved this in spades in her 1997 book, The Time Bind. She studied a Fortune 500 company for three years and determined that despite the availability of parental leave and childcare policies, most women chose not to participate. That’s because you can’t make women who want to be at work want to be at home, any more than you can make women who want to be at home want to be at work.

Moreover, research from Public Agenda shows most parents in America are “satisfied with their current child care arrangements” and are indeed not clamoring for more and better childcare.

For years feminists like Sandberg have been doing their damndest to separate mothers and their children by claiming a woman’s true value rests in the workplace. Their message today is no different than what it was forty years ago.

What they never discuss—ever—is how this Brave New World affects women’s psyches or the well being of America’s children. They never discuss a child’s need to bond with his mother or the visceral need mothers have to be with their children because they either don’t understand it or don’t care.

They also leave out any discussion of biology because that, they believe, locks women and men into strict gender roles. But male and female nature is real and unchanging. The female brain, for example, is saturated in oxytocin—known among scientists as the “bonding hormone.” Women are emotionally connected to their children in a unique and primal way.

That doesn’t mean dads can’t take care of babies and moms can never get jobs. But it does mean most women will want to rock that cradle. It’s also why 62% of employed mothers say they’d prefer to work part time and 79% of employed fathers say they’d prefer to work full time. No amount of cajoling women into the office or demanding men stay home with the kids is going to change this reality.

Yes, there more mothers at work than ever before. But that doesn’t mean work is most women’s priority. Many, in fact, resent having to be there at all.

That women like Sandberg aren’t like most women is no reason to create movements and policies that encourage mothers to separate from their children. Women who lean out­, if only temporarily, are doing what’s best for their children, themselves and their families.

Their sacrifices are great, but their consciences are clear.

Gender Inequality

With ‘Lean In’ a spectacular failure, Sheryl Sandberg enlists MEN to help sell her brand of gender equality

MARCH 31, 2017

Facebook COO and gender equality warrior Sheryl Sandberg is back in the news, having recently teamed up with NBA Commissioner Adam Silver, who says he wants “nothing more than to see the NBA have a female head coach in the league in the near future” and wanted to help “amplify” Sandberg’s Lean In mission.

To that end, Sandberg has since added a new component to her Lean In initiative called LeanInTogether, and it speaks directly to men.

“When men support women, they benefit—and so does everyone else.”

That’s a pretty blanket statement there, Ms. Sandberg. Since when do men not support women? All the men I know are staunch supporters of women.

Unless you mean the only way to be “supportive” of women is to encourage women to “lean in” to their careers? And if so, that invariably means the women who choose to lean out—which, for the record, is the majority of American women—have unsupportive husbands?

In your world, perhaps. But not in ours.

Like all good feminists, Sheryl Sandberg manipulates the language to make her message sound benign. And it’s a smart tactic. Fortunately, as Sandberg herself concedes, women aren’t listening.

“I think it’s never been a more important time for equality because in many ways we are stuck. When I published Lean In four years ago, there were 19 women running countries. Today, it is 11. Women have been basically at less than 6 percent of Fortune 500 jobs, and their equivalents, all over the world for 12 years…Those trends are either going to stay flat or go down unless we have a serious intervention.”

Actually, we’re not stuck. Sandberg is stuck.

Since women aren’t doing what she wants them to do, Sandberg has turned her attention to—or at least added—men to the conversation. And her message to them is clear: “When men lean in for equality, they win—and so does everyone else.”

But what does equality mean in Sandberg’s parlance?

“My goal is very clear, which is that women run half our companies and countries and men run half our homes.” 

[Sidebar: Here I am on Fox Business in 2013, discussing this concept.]

To help men become good feminists, there are three categories on the LeanInTogether website, two of which include “How to Be An All-Star Dad” and “How to Be a 50-50 Partner.”

For “How to Be An All-Star Dad,” Sandberg suggests the following:

(1) Involved dads raise happier, healthier, and more successful children and kids benefit when that involvement goes beyond the traditional paternal role.

Few would disagree with this statement, but it clearly implies that breadwinning fathers are not involved in their kids’ lives. Are we living in 2017 or in 1955? Even here in the conservative Midwest, I don’t know any father who’s not personally involved in his kids’ lives or who walks in the door and assumes his job is done.

(2) Parents place greater value on the chores boys typically do (like taking out the trash) than on chores that girls usually do (like setting the table) and, as a result, boys spend less time on household chores but make more money than girls.

Sandberg calls this made-up phenomenon the “toddler wage gap.” When she first brought it up last year, I responded here.

(3) Girls are labeled “bossy” when they speak up, are called on less in class, and are interrupted more than boys.

Have you ever been a classroom teacher, Ms. Sandberg? Because I have. And that assessment is dead wrong. If anything, boys are the ones at a serious disadvantage in today’s public schools. Do your homework before you spout off this drivel. You were called bossy when you were a kid (as you’ve said more than once) because you were bossy, pure and simple.

For “How to Be a 50-50 Partner,”Sandberg suggests the following:

(1) Women are interrupted more than men. Even if you’re supportive of the women in your life, you may not be giving them the airtime they deserve.

You have got to be kidding me. Are you aware that women talk some 13,000 more words per day than men do? Who the heck do you think, then, is more likely to interrupt whom? And where do you come up with such unfounded claims?

(2) If you are a husband to a woman and you do more of the childcare, it helps [make] your marriage stronger, you have more sex, your divorce rate is lower. It is just a win-win across the board.

Actually, it isn’t a win-win at all. In a 2012 study on “Egalitarianism, Housework, and Sexual Frequency in Marriage,” the American Psychological Association concluded the following:

“Following up on the widely publicized claim that by doing more housework, husbands in more egalitarian marriages got more sex, we sought to investigate the links between men’s participation in housework and sexual frequency using nationally representative data.

Our findings suggest that couples where men participate more in core tasks—work typically done by women—report lower [emphasis mine] sexual frequency. Similarly, couples where men participate more in non-core, traditionally masculine tasks report higher [emphasis mine] sexual frequency, suggesting the importance of gender-typed participation in household labor.”

In other words, husbands and wives who divide household tasks according to the gendered norms feminists hate have more sex—which invariably translates to stronger marriages. It’s our sex differences, not our sameness, that make relationships work.

(3) Many women make professional sacrifices to support their partner’s career, and men still assume their partner will do the lion’s share of child care. 

There again is a manipulation of the language. Men don’t assume anything; it’s just obvious that person who’s home more will do more of the child care. Moreover, most women voluntarily and happily support their husbands’ careers and do more of the child care because—hold on to your hat—that’s what they want to do!

Unfortunately, Lean In will continue to get a lot of play in the media—those with great wealth can make that happen. But it’s a dead-end road.

“Sheryl Sandberg’s 2013 book Lean In has spawned lasting initiatives meant to spur the progress of women to positions of power in major corporations,” writes author and professor Steven Rhoads. But such efforts have been “striking failures” since “most women who have dependent children don’t want to work full time, much less to put in the hours required of corporate titans.”

Indeed they don’t. And the men who are married to women who lean out (because they don’t want to work full time and year-round) are not “unsupportive” of women. On the contrary, they value women based on who they are, not on what they do.

In other words, forget gender equality. It’s pure propaganda. What we should be really be celebrating, as Chad Prather so eloquently explains in his latest You Tube video, is genderinequality.

And I, for one, could not agree more

Men Only Want Sex and Their Freedom

WARNING: READ before you REACT. People who make assumptions based on the TITLE of an article and not its CONTENT, and then leave nasty comments, only show the world how IGNORANT THEY ARE. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but leaving comments when you haven’t even bothered to read the article, shows the world your ignorance. READ before you REACT.

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Every day thousands of women get dumped by good men, and never understand why.

Cosmo  and  Glamour  magazine usually advise women that it’s all the guy’s fault; he was just a jerk who couldn’t commit. Meanwhile, female friends insist he’ll be sorry that he left, and to ‘wait’ until he comes back.

Most of the relationship advice you’ve read or ever taken from a friend, is nothing but a load of crap. I’m here to tell you that it’s almost always the woman’s fault when a relationship ends, he’s not sorry that he left, and no, he’s not coming back.

Men do not fear commitment.

Men fear being broke, and never having their cock sucked again.

It’s just that simple.

I know what you want, and I know how you feel.

All you want is to be loved by one man. Like, in a Fairytale.

Women all over this planet want the exact same thing.

Here’s why most women will never get what they want:

1: Women Universally refuse to accept Men as they are DNA designed, which is why most women will never have a successful romantic relationship.

2: Women Universally refuse to love Men on their terms, which is why most romantic relationships eventually fail.

I want to help you get what you want.

I want you to be so happy, that Cinderella wants to be you.

Set aside your Relationship-Killing-Feminist-Perspective about men, focus on what I say, and then apply it to your romantic relationship; or, cuss-me-out while you stuff another fried chicken leg into your mouth.

Choice is yours.

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A few years ago, a Facebook friend was getting married and she asked me for my best relationship advice regarding men.

I told her that all men only care about these Three Things:

1) Sex

2) Money

3) and ‘Optional Thing,’ which constantly changed, and was anything from: his golf game; his promotion at work; the price of gas; love; paint-chip color cards; his car; where he’d left his mobile phone; which bathroom stall at work was the best place to take a dump; what those guys were wearing when they signed the Declaration of Independence; who fucked-up the lawn mower; Etc., Etc., Etc.

I advised her to give her husband regular blow jobs; to never discuss important issues with him right after work or late at night; to give him his freedom and his space, and to just leave him alone.

She was angry with my advice, and fired-back that getting married meant her blow-job days were over, and that she wanted companionship and had no intention of ever ‘leaving her husband alone.’

I told her that if that was the way she chose to relate to her man, her marriage wouldn’t last three years. Her response was to Unfriend me and block me.

December of 2015, she emailed me at my website telling she’d been served divorce papers, and that she needed my help. I replied that I’d tried to help her, but she’d refused to see that after 50-something years of Terroristic Feminist Reign, men no longer give fuck-all about staying with women who won’t suck their cock, and who make them feel like prisoners of war.

WOMEN GRENADE THEIR OWN RELATIONSHIPS.

Ask any man on earth who has all the power in a relationship, and every man will reply: The Woman.

Know who doesn’t get that? You.

So, while you’re miserably sobbing into the phone, asking your girlfriends what you’ve done wrong and asphyxiating yourself on Häagen-Dazs ice cream, you’ve completely negated to see that the entire solution to your problem is right between your legs.

MEN ONLY WANT SEX . AND THEIR FREEDOM.

A man’s emotions are directly connected to his cock.

Men feel loved when their cock gets wet.

Every time you ignore your man sexually, you’re killing his emotions for you.

The fact that so many women refuse to respect how men need to be loved, is exactly why men leave.

Men don’t want to hear the words ‘I love you’— they need to see it, in order to feel it.

A woman emailed me that her US Marine husband had done several tours in Iraq, and that he’d come home so angry after his last deployment, he would scream at her and call her a liar every time she told him that she loved him.

I reminded her that many service men and women have come back from this war angry and full of self-doubt, and that PTSD was an accelerant on their raw emotions. I told her a man in his emotional state, could not believe the words ‘I love you.’

I was unsure how to advise her because her problem was truly awful; however, after a few days of thinking, I came up with an idea I believed would work, since I understand how men’s brains are wired, and how PTSD re-wires the brain.

I emailed her, and told her to stop telling her husband that she loved him. I explained that most men do not believe in words, they only believe in action, and that her husband was wound so tightly from PTSD, that every time she used the word ‘love,’ it was like throwing firecrackers into his brain.

I told her that she needed to go an entire 31 days straight, without once telling her husband that she loved him; instead, she needed to show him that she loved him, and I emailed her a list on all the ways that she could show him. I then told her to contact me for the next step, once she’d gone a full 31 days with no words of love, only action. It was about 3 months before she finally made it a full 31 days without telling her husband one single time that she loved him.

For the next step, I asked her to pick a week night, and she picked Wednesday after midnight. I then told her that every Wednesday after midnight for the following six weeks, she needed to give her husband head until he came.

She said she would try, so I sent her my book, ‘Creative Screwing,’ and then told her not to contact me for the 3rd step until she had gone six solid weeks giving her husband head, every Wednesday after midnight.

Two months went by, and when she emailed me again, she actually sounded happy. She said Wednesday was the one day a week that her husband made all kinds of effort to reign things in, and that she was shocked at how modified his behavior became. I told her it was because he knew Wednesday was blow job day, and he didn’t want to fuck that up. I then gave her the 3rd step, stating that on Wednesday, she was now going to wear sexy lingerie, put on red lipstick, sit her husband in a chair and turn on a small lamp, so that she’d be on her knees and he could watch her while she was getting him off. I told her to do that for four weeks straight, and then call me for the final step.

When she called me for the final step, I told her, “Kara, this Wednesday, when you do your blow job routine, right as he’s starting to cum, you’re going to tell your husband ‘I love you.’ After he cums, I want you to kiss him all the way from his balls to his neck, and then I want you to leave the room so that he can be alone. Then, I want you to call me, and tell me what happens afterwards.”

That Thursday night, she called and told me that her husband had gone to Walmart and bought her a bicycle. When she asked him why he’d done that, he told her that he was concerned about her health because she never exercised, and he didn’t want her to die because he loved her. She started crying on the phone as she was telling me this. Her husband had not told her that he loved her, in four years.

In order to believe in love, a man has to be loved the way that he needs to be loved.

If you refuse to hear what I am saying, you will never have the romantic relationship that you want with a man.

Article excerpts taken from:

1.“Creative Screwing: a woman’s guide to becoming an erotic enchantress of superlustful sex” Revised 2017

2. “Using Constructive Sex-Positive Techniques to Combat PTSD in Military Men” (April 5, 2017)

3. “Why Men No Longer Love Women: Feminism, Tinder and the War on Men” (May 2018)

Written by

🎇Nannette LaRee Hernandez🎇